Respect of a Dog

It’s one thing to be taught about pack behavior and how dogs show respect and it’s another to really observe the dynamic.

In being with my own ever-changing pack, I have watched as they demonstrate to each other who’s who and where they belong. With a little guidance from me, boundaries are clear.

From a local rescue, I brought home a little terrier mix. Breed isn’t important. He is about 4 or 5 years old. He’s timid but so wanted to be a part of what the other dogs were doing. Well, the only female at this point is herself only 10 months old. She is large for a puppy, and It’s already obvious that she is proud of her position in the family.

I introduce the new guy to everyone. There was a lot of showing of teeth by him as he cowered hoping that they’d have mercy on him. (Maybe that’s not his exact thought!) It took about two days before I noticed an obvious shift. The female was never aggressive with him but was certainly fascinated by his little size and looked as if to question why he was showing his teeth and snarling at her. I’m not sure if she was responding with “are you crazy, man?” or “hey, lighten up, I’m harmless.” She would try to engage him in play but that just scared him more.

As I sat and watched their interaction, the trust between them was shifting. After running around in the yard for awhile, the little guy walked over to the female and licked her lips. The sweet signs of a peaceful submission. I had to remember if they had had peanut butter that morning, because that will also cause a licking of the lips for an entirely different reason.

He licked her lips and she let him. Then, the other pup followed. What is this, a mutual admiration society? It’s peace in the kingdom is what it is.

Seven Reasons to Train Your Dog

1. It creates a better relationship between you and your dog.

2. You’ll be happier with your dog.

3. Your dog will be happier with structure and purpose.

4. You won’t be embarrassed as you walk your dog down the street!

5. Once the dog is trained - you can lower the dose of your blood pressure medication.

6. You’ll save money on furniture, nice pillows, Persian rugs, and other unintentional dog “toys.”

7. You CAN live in harmony with your canine companion.

I came across an article on why not to train your dog. See if you’ve ever used one of these “reasons!”

Appropriate Dog Behavior

Animals, like us, are beings of energy. There is kinetic energy. This is energy in motion. I am not referring to that, but rather the energy that is the basis of everything — the stuff that we’re all made of.

You’ve probably heard that what you feel travels down the leash to the dog. More importantly, as dogs they convert whatever energy we are experiencing through our thoughts and actions into an “appropriate” dog thought and action. In other words, they respond in the “dog equivalent” to our human emotion, thought, and posturing.

It is through awareness and observation that we can make subtle shifts in what we are feeling and in how we are using our bodies. This transfers to a different and what we humans would call a more desirable reaction from our dog. Let’s just say, we are more likely to get the response we want and have a much more attentive and content dog.

Dogs are never intentionally responding inappropriately nor are they ever bad in the way that we may interpret the word. They are just acting in a way that is natural for them at that particular moment in time. We spend a lot of wasted energy trying to get the dog to understand human thought rather than it being the other way around.

I’m not saying that we should just accept whatever the behavior is. It is difficult not to transfer our emotional expression to our dog. We assume that they are thinking as we are. By humanizing our dogs, we miss the opportunity to see what’s really going on.

Chances are, your dog is responding appropriately given their history, genetics, training (or lack of), and maybe most importantly, their instincts.

As a side note, I think it’s fair to say that we humans tend to forget that we also live a lot of our life based on instinct - human instinct. We should remember to understand and work with our dogs based on their instincts and not ours.

For a related article on humanizing your dog, check out: http://www.dogbreedinfo.com/articles/humandog.htm

Dog Rehab - Socialization

Some of the best rehabilitation for a dog happens in the presence of other dogs. They learn from each other and to us mere humans it appears to be in very subtle ways. This could be not-so-good if it’s like how some teenagers “help” other teenagers learn new behaviors! But, good behaviors can also be shared.

I live in the high desert on a fenced acre of property that is like an off-leash park. It is, however, dirt, gravel, and natural desert terrain and is slightly terraced. I recently had a Great Dane here that had lived in a neighborhood and was accustomed to walking on sand or grass. Walking up or down hills had not been his experience.

Here is this 120-pound dog afraid of stepping off of the patio because of his tender feet. He was like a little girl trying to gain stability while walking around in her mother’s high heels! As we’d walk around and climb the gentle slopes of the yard, it was apparent that what Schlappie lacked was more than toughened paw pads. He lacked confidence in his body and ability to control it as he maintained his balance.

I couldn’t help him with that but the other dogs could. He would do his best to keep up with them. It was obvious that he wanted to be like the other kids on the playground. I think I heard them call him Chief Tenderfoot. What was I to do? “Kids” can be cruel.

He would step from patio to dog bed to dirt to patio and then contemplate the best next step to get inside without ever leaving a cushion or the flat consistent surface.

I’d take all the dogs on a walk around the property every morning and evening and watch as Schlappie began to walk a little quicker but more than that, he was gaining confidence. THEN, one evening, it happened! Confidence shift for Schlappie! He took off galloping like a horse - around and around he went. It was a thing of beauty to watch his awareness of freedom and trust in his long legs to get him where he wanted to go.

Schlappie is now ready to help other dogs and to tell his story of how in just two weeks of rehab he lost his nickname and gained self-confidence.

Obedience training and positive structure will help to build confidence in your dog. The more confident and clear you are with your expectations - the more confidence you’ll bring to them. Watch how the dogs do it. . .it’s a beautiful thing!

What About Dog Parks?

Dog parks or off-leash parks can be great places to let your dog socialize, play fetch, and for some aspects of training.

I have been to several parks that are very small, smell of urine, and the humans haven’t been responsible for picking up after their dogs. I have also been to parks that were amazing and the dogs and humans all had a great time! Here are a few things to consider:

• If your dog is aggressive with other dogs, stay out of the parks and find a trainer who can work with you and your dog in a more suitable environment.
• If you are feeling insecure about entering the park, chances are your dog will sense that from you. Alway take their leash off in the area provided prior to entering the area with the other dogs.
• Dog parks are for well-behaved humans and their well-behaved dogs.
• If you can’t handle your dog outside of the park fence, then inside the park is not the place to be.
• Dog parks are good for human socialization and for dogs to use some of their energy. However, some dogs will leave the park more energized.
• Never leave your dog unattended.
• Dogs will be dogs and will do their introductory sniffing. Not all dogs will like each other. Don’t try to force that. Just be responsible and aware if there appears to be signs of an altercation.

If you are interested in going to a dog park but aren’t sure about your dog in that environment, contact a trainer and have them meet you there. They can evaluate your dog and go in the park with you if that’s appropriate. It can be a great place for you and your dog!